And there is not a guy on this planet I’d rather be happily divorced from. So, if you ask my Ex how he feels about me, what would he say? I quote: “Jennifer, you were hard to be married to but easy to be divorced from.” Ha. C’mon, it’s not like he’s answering my texts during dates anymore. It’s a huge red flag when I’m dating a guy, and he starts bashing his ex-wife. All y’all should be happy we get along so well. I am not the reason! Who wouldn’t want to be with the greatest guy in town? What, because I’m all up in his shit? Puh-lease. Ok, so not only is this song my “ringtone” on my Ex’s phone, but I guess I’m the reason he can’t keep a woman. I asked them why is he #13? My son said, “Duh Mom, he’s like, number 13.” (Nice, huh?) But, I’m finally dating a great guy! So, my Ex and the boys gave him a nickname. Now, he insists on pulling background checks before I say “yes” to dinner. Ya know, me staying in bed for days, sobbing. They seem to last about a month, maybe two. I was his “ridiculous wife” and now I’m the “ridiculous ex.” Ha. He’s still my “go-to” when I’m upset about work, or my boyfriend. And he still listens when I’m spinning out over the stupidest shit. He will come over all hours of the night to catch mice. And he still does my taxes and fixes my leaky faucets. They’d say, “You’re so not my problem.” But not my Ex. Sure, he can hang up I’m not his wife anymore. Wanna know why? Because one day, my kid is going to look back at his album and say, My parents made the divorce easy. We sit together at the boy’s basketball games, and we even took family pictures at our son’s Bar Mitzvah. And we have holidays together and eat dinner when we can. The boys flipping worship him because he is engaged 100% when they are with him. And he is a better dad now than he was when we were married. Like really co-parent, we split everything 50/50. We used a mediator, and our money stayed ours. Who do I trust? He kept saying, “We need to focus on the boys.” And we did. I had no idea what I was doing after being married for 12 years. I didn’t get that at first, but my Ex was so good about explaining it, that I started to see it through his perspective. Keep it between you…it should all go to your kids in the end. LISTEN TO ME! Don’t fight over money, or give it to attorneys. It’s always about the money, isn’t it? And I don’t mean the alimony and child support, y’all. Our relationship could be put to music really, or maybe theme songs: He knows that a happy life means a HAPPY EX WIFE! It takes work! I flat out love my Ex, and I’m not ashamed to say it. Being happily divorced is just as difficult as being happily married. So when we decided to pull the plug, and get happy… we also chose to do it right! Fuck all the issues and bullshit! It’s about the kids. And although we may not have meant to be married, we got two amazing kids out of the deal. And I don’t need a Mom for my kids either, they have me! But maybe, all you divorcees arguing over beanbags will read this and get a glimpse of what a happy divorce can actually look like… when you put your kids first and flush your egos down the shitter. He gets enough action on his own, trust me. But understand, this is not some ploy to find him a woman. Oh, for fucksake, pick your mouths up off the floor and hear a girl out! And actually, I love him more now than I did when we were married! I find him more attractive, sweeter… and a downright pleasure to be around. After being divorced for almost four years, how can one say they’re in love with their Ex? Simple, I am.

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